I'm in a bar next to the swanky hotel near Amsterdam Centraal, sipping Westmalle Dubbbel, waiting for A to join me after his conference, and reading Mating in Captivity - a book I have enjoyed immensely from the first word (thanks, captain_g, waylay).
In particular, this:
Aggression, objectification, and power all exist in the shadow of desire, components of passion that do not necessarily nurture intimacy. Desire operates along its own trajectory.
I have a lot to say on this topic, having lived the textbook case that the author is describing, the opposite thereof, and also a working combination of the two. But I'm only on page 31 of the book, so we'll see what else is coming up.
(Tonight in Amsterdam, what is coming up is a gorgeous dinner and cocktails!)
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